The start of a new school year is an exciting time but it can also bring a mixture of emotions for both children and parents. As we settle into the new school year, here are a few things I wish every parent knew:
Every child settles at their own pace
Some children run confidently through the Blue Doors from day one, whilst others need a little more time and reassurance. Both responses are completely normal. Children adjust to change in different ways and there is no right or wrong timeline for settling into their new routine.
Tears at drop-off are normal
Even children who were happily settled last year can feel emotional after the long summer holiday. New classrooms, teachers, routines and expectations can feel overwhelming at first. A tearful goodbye or a tired child at home does not mean something is wrong. Sometimes children may also be tearful again when they see you at the end of the day. This does not mean they have been unhappy during the day; rather, it is often a sign that they have remembered how much they have missed you. Pre-Prep staff will always let you know if your child has not settled during the day.
Your child may be more emotional than usual
Starting a new term brings many exciting changes, including new routines, friendships, classrooms and learning opportunities. All of these experiences require a great deal of energy. It is therefore quite normal for children to feel more tired, hungry or emotional than usual during the first few weeks and this is often a positive sign that they are working hard, learning and settling well into school life.
Moving from a previous setting
If your Nursery or Reception child attended a previous setting full time, you may be surprised by how tired they seem after a day at Gayhurst. This is completely normal. Although they may be used to spending a full day away from home, the structure and pace of a school-based Nursery and Reception environment can feel very different. There are new routines to learn, friendships to build, and lots of exciting learning opportunities to embrace, all of which require a great deal of concentration and energy. With time, children gradually build their stamina and confidence, and what can feel exhausting in the first few weeks soon becomes part of their happy daily routine.
Independence takes time
From enjoying lunch in the dining room for the first time in Nursery or Reception to visiting the Art Room in Prep School as a Year 2 pupil, the first few weeks of term are filled with exciting new experiences. Celebrate your child’s growing confidence as they embrace these new opportunities and challenges.
Friendships are still forming
It is completely normal for friendship groups to change during the first few weeks of term. Children are learning to navigate relationships, develop social skills and find their place within both the class and the wider year group. At times, children may tell you that they have not played with anyone or that they feel left out. Please be reassured that the Pre-Prep staff are very experienced in supporting children with friendships and helping those who may be finding playtimes challenging. However, if you have any concerns, please do speak to your child’s class teacher so that we can work together to support them.
How you can help
The first few weeks of term can feel like a big adjustment after the long Summer holiday. One of the best ways to support your child is through predictable routines at home. Consistent bedtimes and relaxed mornings help children feel safe and secure, making it easier for them to start each day feeling positive and ready to learn. At the end of the day, rather than asking, “What did you do today?”, try asking specific questions such as, “Who did you sit next to at lunch?” or “What made you smile today?” These smaller conversations often reveal much more and help children share their experiences in a relaxed way. If your child is in Nursery or Reception, the photos and observations shared by their teachers on Tapestry can be a wonderful starting point for conversations at home. Looking through them together can help your child reflect on their week, celebrate their achievements and share experiences that they may not otherwise think to tell you about.
Small worries can feel very big
What may seem like a small issue to an adult, such as a misplaced water bottle or a new seating arrangement, can feel significant to a young child. With patience, reassurance and encouragement, most concerns soon pass. However, if your child has any worries that persist, please do get in touch so that we can work together to support them.
We are on the same team
School works best when staff and parents work together. We know that you know your child best and we value the partnership we share with families. If you have any concerns, however small they may seem, please do get in touch. We are always happy to listen and help.
We see incredible growth very quickly
Some of the most significant developments in confidence, resilience and independence take place during the first few weeks of term. Whether it is hanging up a coat, putting on a jumper or remembering a reading book, children learn independence through practice. Mistakes and forgotten items are part of the learning process. Every small step helps build confidence and resilience.
Your child is doing better than you think
Children are often far more resilient than we realise. Even when they seem uncertain, they are learning, growing and becoming more confident each day. Celebrate the small successes and remember that settling in is a process, not a race. Most importantly, remember that the first few weeks of school are a time of adjustment for everyone. With patience, encouragement and a little time, children quickly begin to feel secure, confident and happy in their new surroundings. By working together, home and school can ensure that the start of term is a positive, successful and enjoyable experience for every child.
